Why I am disassociating with society.

 

Why I am disassociating with society.

Before anyone leaves a comment, please understand that I want solutions to this problem. I don’t want to see any defensive comments blindly defending parents or families out of sheer emotion.  I you are not open to conversations about the dark side family life then I suggest that you do not comment on this post. If this post changes the way you perceive me as a person in a negative way, then feel free to unfriend me and unfollow me. I can always find someone else to talk to.

I have now made the decision to disassociate with society after what I have been through emotionally over the last 9 months. No one in my family are willing to have open conversation with me. Last August, my mother told 6 lies about me on 2 WhatsApp audio messages and I responded with multiple messages and even a blogpost (read here: Richard Davis Life Blog: 6 Lies my mother told me.) refuting all 6 lies, and instead of acknowledging these lies and apologizing for them, she and the rest of the family get defensive and accuses me of ‘badmouthing’ when I haven’t said anything different from what I have said originally in the WhatsApp messages.

 If parents cannot take accountability for their mistakes and wrongdoings towards their own children, then the state of our society really must be put under serious question. It’s crazy how much protection parents get for the same behaviour that children will get punished for. All the time, parents always tell their children not to lie, and yet, this is exactly what they do to their children. It’s disgusting, it’s unfair and it’s a betrayal of trust. If I cannot even trust my own mother to tell the truth, then who can I trust?

After nearly 40 years of life, I have decided that I have done my very best to fit into the society that I live in. However, If the end result of trying to socialise and fit into society is lies and exaggerations about who I am as a person, then I would rather be on my own. I no longer believe that there is a genuine reward for being around other people apart from maybe gratification and escapism.

 It is clear to me now that the unconditional love that we expect to get from our parents is practically dead. Parents always expect you to look a certain way, act a certain way and even be a certain way. They don’t even consider the fact that they maybe profound reasons for you being or becoming a certain way. Parents always demand perfection unless they are told explicitly that there is a profound reason for you being a certain way, for example, Back in April 2024, I was banned from my parents’ house the other day for having a beard, even though they know that I was going through and asthma crisis which at times made it difficult to shave, due to the risk of cutting myself. I eventually made the sacrifice of trying to shave my beard, which thankfully I did successfully, and I eventually attended her family event, but why do I even have to do this. I am still her son with or without the beard. She would love me the same way if she had unconditional love, which she clearly does not.

I also have a sister who thinks that all I ever do is shout, even though I only ever shout in very specific circumstances. It’s not like I shout every single day of anything, but this is exactly what my family wants you to believe. They what to make me look and sound like some kind of evil monster, when all I really have is an angry reaction to certain situations. This is the kind of manipulation that my family wants to give to the public, that I am somebody who shouts and shouts and shouts and just wants to tear down people emotionally. The truth is that everybody in my family shouts, but my family just wants to demonise me and single me out for the exact same actions that they have done to me and others previously.

 This is the toxic situation that I am in with my family, and I cannot see it changing any time soon. If I cannot trust my family to represent me in an honesty way, who can I really trust? I have communicated at length about this on Facebook, Instagram and my own blog page and the only responses that I get from people are the defensive ones like ‘Remember, mummy always loves you etc… etc … etc …’  The problem is that most people don’t even know what real love is. That’s because most people don’t actually study love. One of the most important elements of love is trust. If I cannot trust my family to talk about me in an honest manner, than how can I really trust anyone? This is the sad reality that I live in with my family, and therefore, I have no confidence in talking to them about emotional issues.

There are some people out there who will think that I am just a loner. Well, maybe it is all for the best. I think it is better to be on your own than with the wrong people and if that includes your own family, so be it. I don’t want to be misrepresented anymore. I know deep down in my heart that I am a good and honest person who tries his heart out in anything that I dedicate my time to. However, nobody is perfect and I know that I come with my own shortcomings and difficulties. That doesn't mean that people should exaggerate and make me look worse that what I really am. That is simply not fair.

I hope that this message encourages and apology from my family for misrepresenting me and making me look worse that I really am, because I know that I am not as bad as they  make me look and I think I deserve a lot better.

 

 

Thank you for your understanding.

Richard Davis.